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Not-so-smooth Operator

Oftentimes I find myself wondering at the apparent disconnect that exists between the operating speed of my brain, and that of my body. Mostly because it annoys the fuck out of me, pretty much every day in some way or another.

One of the prime examples of my brain working faster than the rest of my body is the ‘What?’-issue.
You know, those moments where someone says something and you initially think you didn’t hear what they were saying so you reply instantly with a ‘What?’ so they repeat themselves. And while the ‘what’ is already escaping your lips – you realize that you DID register what they were saying, the message just landed slower than your reply already left the building. My hearing – slower than my brain. A LOT slower. I ‘what?’ a LOT.

But I’m much the same with a boatload of other things. I mean – if my brain had anything to say about it, I’d be a great (and possibly pro) softballplayer. I understand that game SO well. I know the plays. I can usually predict hitters and I see how pitchers are lining up for their throws. Sadly – then it comes down to my body responding and executing. Which, honestly, it sucks at.
Oftentimes it feels like I’m ‘lagging’. Probably won’t make much sense when you’re not a gamer, but it generally means that there’s a momentary lapse in your own actions, while the rest of the world continues around you.

So I’ll see a ball get hit, field the ball and quickly pop-up to throw it to first, only to realize that while my brain had already completed the fielding motion in it’s entirety – my hand hadn’t actually made it fully to the ground yet, missing the ball and popping up without it. I can’t count the times people yell at me ‘BALL FIRST’. Just because I want to be quicker than I actually am. I suck.

It’s the same with gaming as a whole. Take League of Legends for example. It’s a pretty simple game in its basics. You have an enemy and you need to kill them as many times as possible while working your way towards destroying their base. But there’s a lot of intricacies and teamplay involved and once you get to a certain level, you have to be QUICK in not just MAKING those judgments and insights, but also in the appropriate reflexes and multitasking. And while my brain can do ALL of those things without too much effort, proven when I’m watching streams and I predict/yell at the players to do something before they themselves act – I’m at the same time totally incapable of willing my hands and fingers to act with the speed of my awareness, thus being a total loser when it comes to playing myself.

It’s these moments where I KNOW what to do. Know WHEN to do it. Know HOW to do it – but then find myself physically incapable of actually doing it. Not able to will my body to react with the same speed as my brain. Friggin’ sucks.

It’s then when training starts to matter. Training on muscle memory, reflexes and hand-eye mastery requires repetition. Lots of it. And patience. Lots of it. And innate talent. Preferably. It’s not a fast process, even when your brain is. And that’s why I also fail in that regard, because I quit way faster than I respond. If I’m not instantly capable of acting at the level that my brain wants to – I give up.

The thing is – it’s easy to get arrogant about what you know when you’re quick to grasp knowledge, but it’s also easy to be a loser when you’re not quick on the actual uptake and 0 successful in actual execution. I struggle with this a lot.

Especially when people compliment me on being good at something – my first instinct is to reply that I’m actually a lot better in my brain. It doesn’t feel like I deserve the compliment because I’m not optimalizing the possible results.

And oftentimes I find myself downplaying intelligence I do have ‘because it’s only ‘booksmarts’ while I rather be practical and ‘street smart’.’.

I hold so much more respect for people who can actually do things instead of just theorize about them. So much so that I guess that any compliments at my address in that corner are also very slow to reach my brain. You can compliment me and all you get is a ‘What?’. Compliment not registered.

25 thoughts on “Not-so-smooth Operator

  1. It all starts good and well and ends with we see you have it in you but it’s just not coming out right now. I freaking know that. And it sucks. Training and repeating helps sometimes. But it can be very frustrating. But seriously all I heard was sainz singing ‘ smooth operator’ f1 fans will understand 😇

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  3. You know I can find being coached on something excruciatingly difficult— because I often learn in a different, more intuitive way to most people. I’m not very good at repeating a set of instructions, AT ALL. But if I know the gist of what we’re trying to accomplish, and I have the basics, then with enough practice and trial and error by myself, I can do it. I have to feel my way towards it. Coaching really slows things down and gets in the way most of the time, for me.

    E.g. say I’ve just made a mistake in execution— I immediately know it and am already planning to improve that aspect on the next try— but before that the coach is already screaming at me about the mistake I already know I made, which is just disheartening. And the fact you’re just saying ‘I know…’ makes it look like you don’t really know 🤷‍♂️— because your mind’s working so fast and you’ve already processed it all. Also constantly being corrected for different things really distracts me from focusing on the one thing I’m trying to focus on improving. It can be supremely stressful if the person coaching is not understanding how you learn!!

    I think solo sports can be better for people like us— or sports where you can practice a lot by yourself, on your own, free to make mistakes and get as much practice as you want, and be really creative. A team sport like softball which you really can’t practice much of on your own, would really frustrate me!! I had this issue when I tried wheelchair basketball a couple of years ago— though at least you can practice a lot of that by yourself— shooting hoops and dribbling for example. Also that particular coach was a total narcissistic arse 😆.

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  4. Oh I totally relate on the ‘What?’ issue! 100% haha! Also I really struggle with people who talk slowly— because my brain is processing alternate meanings of what they’ve said up until now— but following words can completely change the meaning. It can get quite absurd. I also find it harder to remember what they’re actually saying. And especially if they start making major grammatical mistakes, or pause in weird places…that really throws me off.

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    1. Oh god – yeah. Slow talkers are KILLING. I can never resist finishing their sentences for them. It’s SO deadly.
      And I get what you’re saying with people refusing to accept your (different) ways of learning. It’s like being forced into a corset while you’re already short on breath.

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      1. Yup!!!!!!!!!!! To everything.

        A great thing which I discovered once was the value in being able to speed up audio— either podcasts or video. There’s an awesome chrome extension I use which lets you easily speed up any video you happen to view 😄— Video Speed Controller. I am brutal with it, lol.

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  5. Ahaha, I think I feel the same as you, but with direction. Give me detailed directions to get somewhere and I’ll get lost. I’ll do it again for ten times and still get lost.

    But once muscle memory takes over, then I’m suddenly able to magically find my way there.

    Maybe life is a matter of repeating the things you care about.

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